“Express your feelings in simple terms” 1 February 2026
Anonymous
Q. I am a tenth standard student and I have my board exams in the coming month. I’m already very nervous because of that. I have been consistent with my studies, but my parents are very strict and they keep demotivating me by saying things like “you’re not studying hard enough”, “you can never go above average level like this”. I feel suffocated. I don’t feel like sharing anything with them because if and when I do, they taunt me in front of everyone. I don’t feel like doing anything at all. What should I do?
Ans. I can understand that this can be really demotivating when parents don’t acknowledge your efforts. At times parents think using such statements can motivate you to do better while not realizing how it can affect you. You could assert yourself and talk to them once and tell them how you feel when they talk like that. Let them know it is adding to your nervousness. And when you talk, do not blame them for not understanding you- instead, express your feelings in simple terms like- “I feel hurt and demotivated when you say this”. I hope they will understand your feelings.
NK
Q. I am 21 year- old girl studying science. Since I was a kid, my dad used to physically beat me. He used to yell on me and beat me very badly. Whenever I think about it, I still feel very scared. I am not able to calm my mind because thoughts of my past still bother me. My father doesn’t stay with me now but I still feel scared. Can counselling help in this case?
Ans. Definitely, counselling will help you process your past experiences and heal emotionally. Difficult past experiences often generate negative emotions that become difficult to manage. Even though your father has left the house the memory of his behavior and your bad experience still scares you, disturbing your mind perpetually. Come for a few sessions regularly and you will notice a difference. Trauma needs to be addressed systematically. It exists in the mind as well in the body, triggering off mind body symptoms of the past.
ABC
Q. My daughter is suffering from PCOD for two years when she was in standard 11. She is not doing well in her studies. She was a bright student earlier but now she has become an average student. This bothers her and the family as well. She was an ambitious child and wanted to become a computer engineer. She remains in her room most of the time. If we ask her questions, she does not like it and shows irritation. She once mentioned that she would like to talk to a psychologist. Can you help her? We don’t want her to spoil her year and her career.
Ans. PCOD is more of a lifestyle disorder that comes up due to stress. Stress in turn can lead to mild depression which can disturb concentration, relationships, desire to do well and many other factors too. We can talk to her and help her identify ways to build healthy coping skills along with certain lifestyle changes for PCOD. Please bring her for a session. You might consult an endocrinologist too for medicines along with counseling.
