‘Heal your negative emotions” 3rd August 2025
VL
Q. I feel depressed because I failed in my B.Com, 3rd year and because of that, I won’t be able to have my degree of I don’t have an aggregate of 50%. I am completely disturbed. I am unable to focus on what I can do and keep crying when I’m reminded of what has happened. Please suggest what to do.
Ans. It would be helpful for you to analyze the reasons for your failure so that you can work on them and achieve success in the next attempt. Life is a continuous process and you have to keep working hard towards your goals. Failure definitely feels heavy and you are bound to feel difficult to go ahead. There may be mood swings and you would feel depressed, but it is never a permanent condition. One day you will succeed. In addition to preparing for your re-exam, you can also make some time for things you like to do, which will help you uplift your mood. Cheer up and look forward to success in future.
Anonymous
Q. I passed my 12th standard this year. I scored less marks. Actually, I lost my mother when I was four. We are two brothers and three sisters. There is big difference in our ages. I am the younger one. I spent most of the years with my third sister. I was very comfortable with her. I used to share all my problems and all with her. Then we shifted to Nagpur. I lost my father in COVID and my third sister also got married a year back. Since then I feel very lonely. I am not free with my brother and other sisters and I cannot share my problems with them. Actually, the main problem is I am not confident about my decisions. They always take decisions for me and I have to follow them. I don’t feel comfortable with them. They don’t understand me. So generally, I share my secrets and feelings with my close friends. Now I am grown up and I want to take my own decisions but I am not confident on them. So, it takes much time to take decisions and by that time I get scolded and have to follow their decisions. So please suggest me how to cope up with such situations and how to overcome my hesitation.
Ans. You’re entering that age where you can start taking small daily decisions and thinking about its pros and cons. Analyze the benefits and the disadvantages of a particular decision and then take a slight risk. Taking a risk is an important part of taking decisions as you are responsible for the consequences of the decision, but if you feel it is right for you, try going ahead with it. Even if you make mistakes in the decisions taken, remember that it is a learning process and even the mistakes will teach you some good things. So, do not be afraid of making mistakes. Slowly your confidence will grow as you grow up and you will make right decisions that are good for you. Guidance of parents is very important and you are missing that. But you could always consult your third sister on phone and take an opinion from her.
AS
Q. I was dating a guy for 5 years but now I came to know that he has married another girl without telling me. He broke my trust. I am 22 years old currently working as well as studying. I am very upset as well as irritated. Please help me overcome this!
Ans- This is indeed a situation where you are bound to feel a lot of anger as well as frustration. Dealing with a betrayal is often an intense process and takes time. You may feel like confronting the boy and asking for an explanation but this is of no use now to you. You will need to heal your hurt emotions for it should not impact your future perception of men. A few counselling sessions will be better to help you introspect, understand and resolve the status.
