Q. Recently you might have heard about the lost girl from my town Amravati. She was a 12-13 year girl who went lost. After all the police and family drama, the girl was found after 4 days from Nagpur. Later it was revealed that it was neither a case of kidnapping nor child trafficking. The girl left the house on her own will and the shocking part, that after she was found, she again attempted to run away because she did not want to return back to her family. It is known from the girl’s family’s close sources that the environment of their house was quite strict and dominating. They still don’t have a smart phone in their house!
My question to you is, was that girl really at fault? People around are talking a lot about the girl. That she had a hot temperament and that she was naughty too. Her twin sister is so calm. What bold step can that girl take when she goes to the college and so on….Ma’am, even I was brought up in a very strict environment and an atmosphere where my elder sibling with high IQ was always preferred. Somewhere I feel, I can very well relate to the girl’s feeling of not wanting to return back home..I’m getting disturbed by the people accusing the girl and moreover I’m not able to acknowledge my own feeling that the girl is not at fault… Ma’am, please guide- is it the girl’s fault, or the parents are at fault?
Ans. This case needs to be looked into from many angles. One is that a girl of age 12 will not leave home until she has the support of someone to care for her. It is possible only when she is suffering from a mental disorder where she is not aware of the reality and runs away or strays away from home repeatedly. Such cases though rare have been reported in Nagpur too where a girl strayed away from school and got lost in another area. The issue of the family being dominating can be a reality because violence and abuse in families is a common phenomenon. Not having a smart phone at home is not an anomaly as most times it is not required at all and children should not be provided smart phones in school levels- it only makes them addicted and un-smart. The violence, if any, and the domination needs to stop immediately and the police authorities can take note and action against the family members/parents. They should be given a strict warning and let off with a threat. Child-line (helpline for children) should be informed about such children and they can intervene in such families as social workers. They should follow up such cases for future care and monitor their progress of adjustment in the family. As far as the question of ‘whose fault’ is concerned, the ultimate moral and legal responsibility falls on the parents who will be ‘found guilty’ of bad management and bad parenting.
Q. I am a BBA student. Also I want my career in cooperate sector but problem is that they only hires experienced candidates. Then fresher’s like me cannot get such kind of job in business sector. So can u guide me how can I make a good career in cooperate sector?
Ans. I hope you are talking about the corporate sector and not cooperate sector? I think you need to hone your skills further in many areas before you make a career in the corporate sector. They look for many qualities in a candidate and therefore ask for some work experience. Campus selections are done for fresher’s or else gain experience in smaller companies and then rise in the ladder of bigger and better companies. Take more education and skills in the right direction depending upon your career goals.
Q. I am 2nd year 3rd semester B.Sc science (maths) group student and I have 1st and 2nd semester back PCM group and I could not concentrate on studies cause I have no interest in it my parents have pushed me to do it. But I have interest in civil engineering its 2 years while I am studying bsc but now I have so much backlogs that I cannot clear. Please advice me that civil engineering is good option or not!
Ans. Any option is a good option whether it is maths or engineering. The important and decisive factor is your aptitude and interest in the discipline. it would be a good idea to get your aptitude measured and guidance taken for the best options for you. The second chance that you take for making a fresh choice should be the right one and not a fancy of your mind or a pressure from your parents. This is the unfortunate reality that we see around us now-a-days.