31 January 2021 “Focus on self and not others”
Q. I am a student studying in class 12 I have a major issue of concentrating and i.e because of overthinking a lot I make up scenarios in my head and keep thinking it again and again. If I am going outside for a party or to my friend’s house that means that I cannot study that day after coming because of overthinking that moments and making scenarios in my head. I often compare myself with others and feel very upset I am trying to be more Anti -social because of this. I also sometimes feels neglected and avoided among my friends. It is affecting my studies very badly as I have boards this year and competitive exams also. I have written to you previously also it has helped me.
Ans. At this point of time when you have examinations around the corner, your top priority should be studies and not friends. Avoid parties and stop comparing and bothering about friends for they will be there for you afterwards. But the exams come at a fixed date and are a major milestone in life. Your admissions to college depend upon your one -time performance in the exams. If you do not focus now you will regret it forever. Introspect and find out why you are procrastinating in studies? Motivate yourself with thoughts of success and good future in a good college. Assess yourself for negative thoughts and negative emotions and deal with them. Fill your mind with positive thoughts about yourself and your life. You are better than anyone else you know among your friends and you are unique for there is no one like you. Search for your unique qualities and be different. First, get serious, remove all distractions and get going. This is your duty towards yourself and your life. Everyone will get attracted to you when you succeed!
Q. I am krishna for from Nagpur Maharashtra I always read your journals in newspaper that always gives inspiration to lost and depressed people. mam after 10th I took admission in diploma engineering because of my parents and I think it was wrong by me. mam please suggest me some carrier options that may provide travelling and exploring the world.
Ans. Make a list of careers that appear attractive to you and one by one explore their positives and negatives on certain parameters such as, degree or diploma, number of years of training, opportunities for job, pay scales and chances of progress, affordability of fees and the amount of happiness you will get. I am sure you can google up material on the above. Let me help you with some career suggestions. Travel and tourism, sales and marketing, business development require you to travel. High executive posts demand travel. A foreign diplomat gets posted in foreign countries. For that you need to qualify the government exams of UPSC. Engineering also demands travel if you get into marketing and business development. There are ways to travel and explore the world. Come for a session of career planning and guidance if you cannot do it by yourself.