“Suicide is never an option”- 29 January 2017
C.S
Q. Please let me know if there are centres for slow learners and children with attention deficit disorders. My son was diagnosed with this a year ago in Chennai and now I am residing in Nagpur. We were trying to settle in the new job and new place and could not contact you. The problem is getting worse we feel. Please guide us.
Ans. Yes, your child can be helped very nicely in Nagpur too. We have very good professionals in the field. Contact us once and then let me guide you to the proper place. I would need to know some more details, such as the level of Intelligence (IQ), his age and his other reports before we refer him to the right person. Please contact us soon.
A.M
Q. Few years ago my brother went to Delhi to study for entrance exams and we find that he has stopped studying and is behaving differently. He talks about astrology and ghosts and future things which is scaring us. He tells big stories about his future and when we shout at him he cuts off the phone. My father asked him to come back home but he said he will after some time. Can you guide us about this? Whom should we consult?
Ans. Any strange behaviour needs to be taken seriously. Any sudden onset of strange behaviour needs to be taken even more seriously. This is definitely an upset of his mind and balance and something has gone wrong. Call him home on some pretext and bring him over. If he refuses then bring your parents along to see me, we will see what can be done about it under the circumstances. One thing is sure that he needs help and treatment after the right diagnosis is made. You need to tell me the details of all his symptoms. It is important to know if he has lost sight of his goal in Delhi. If he has shifted his focus from studies of the entrance exams to something else it s serious. Do not delay.
K.S
Q. I am in std 12th but I am not able to concentrate in studies. I am angry and irritated many time I shout at friends and even my family. I will fail or not do well in my boards I feel. I feel like depressed and committing suicide. I cry a lot these days and cry alone. I cannot tell anyone. My parents have high hopes on me and my 12th. They feel I will do very well and they think I am very intelligent. I am not intelligent. Now I cannot take any more of all this. Please help. You are my last hope. Nobody seems to understand me anymore.
Ans. This is an unfortunate situation. Either you are suffering from depression or you are finding your studies very tough. You might have chosen subjects for your 12th which are proving to be difficult. You might be realizing this a little late and is afraid to admit that to your parents as they have high expectations from you. But this will not help at all and is not the proper way to handle your problems. Firstly, never keep parents in the dark about your problems. Even if they do not understand it initially, they will eventually, if you go on complaining. They are your parents and they love you. You and your life are more important to them than your marks and your career. Tell them you feel depressed and you cry and you want to see a psychologist. Tell them that you have difficulty in studies and that you may fail. If they don’t listen –shout. Force them to listen to you and your problems. Parents need to know and they are the best persons to help you and care for you. Never think of suicide –that is no option at all for life’s many problems. We can help you solve any type of problem. Be hopeful and optimistic.
T.A
Q. I have changed many jobs and do not know where my weakness is. I tend to get bored soon. I also listen to others and get influenced by them. When some people tell me that this is a bad and lousy company and that we are planning to leave, I start thinking negatively about it too. Like this I have spoiled many good opportunities in growth. People poison my mind and I start behaving stupidly. What is wrong with me? Can I become smarter and more independent in my thinking? Please help. I am willing to come if you tell me to.
Ans. We could help you with an analysis of your personality and your strengths and weaknesses. We could also help you with planning your career growth and the most suitable job for you. Yes, stop getting influenced by people and their opinion. Listen to them but learn to form your own opinion. We can train you in all such aspects. Get in touch with us please.
