“Treat your depression soon”- 2 September 2018.
Q. I Was Admitted In A Hospital Where One Doctor Took Special Care Of Me.We Became Friends,I Started Loving Him.Once While Chatting I Wanted To Get Closer&He Stopped Taking To Me.I Apologized Which He Accepted But Never Used To Talk Like Before.My Messages Were Always Unread On Watsapp.In Between I Changed My No.&Called Him Casually After Some Days.Suprisingly He Blocked Me But I Admitted My Love Through SMS.Now After That He Is Offline All The Time &Coming To Watsapp/Facebook Only If I Request Him Through Call(He Unblocked,Picks ,Doesn’t Talks Only Listens ) Or SMS(No Reply).Why He Hates Me So Much? How To End This
Ans. Please understand that he does not necessarily hate you- that is an inference because he is not explaining his behaviour. Another explanation could be that he does not want any love entanglement but was happy with only friendship. Another one is that men don’t like to be left behind when the woman takes the lead! That’s just by the way! Seriously, he may be scared of your intense emotions which may not appeal to him and once your emotions for him have changed from friendship to love/romantic he wants to quit. This is fair enough. The only aspect is that he could explain it, but do not like to do that. So give it up and keep the good memories.
Q. I am an 11th grader- I took science stream without maths. I am having troubles with my studies as I don’t get enough time. I attend school from 8:00 to 1:40 and then go to tuition class from 2:30 to 7:30. After coming back I feel very tired and stressed. I’m not getting any time for self study. I had asked my parents to enrol me in some dummy college but they don’t agree. Please help me. Thanks
Ans. You are right about the dummy college –a student must rely on one good institute- either the college or the tuition class and not both- it is too much time involved and different approaches too can confuse. If it is possible to do so now, please request your parents to make the shift. Self study is the best form of study after an initial proper instruction from a teacher. You truly do not need two institutes for the same. I hope they will realise the value of it.
Q. I had earlier also wrote to you last year. I work in a call centre. I need your advice, to tackle my situation. My life has become a hell, loss of friends, interest, hobbies. I’m losing everything in life. There’s even seems no reason to live. I thought of leaving everything behind and last year, I came to new place for my job. I thought that, I will start once again. But from past one year, I’m unable to do. I’m facing the same things. I literally ran from there. Life sucks me. I don’t even have zeal to live on. I lose everything, even friends. People leave me. I can’t even share things with family, they never support anything. Life is a hell. People leave me every time. Every time I plan not make acquaintances, but I always make and when they leave me. It kills me. People laugh at me, when they have work, they will come otherwise never anyone will turn up. I tried to mediate, but I wasn’t able to. I lack will power. I just think of ending myself, however I don’t even have that much will to do. It reflects as if I’m a psycho. Please help me, every time I think to run away where nobody would know me & no one can hurt me. But I fail to do so. I’m tired of failing in my life. In terms of education, I never wanted to be an Engineer but my parents forced me to do so. Now I have lost zeal to pursue my interest, I regret surrendering to family wishes. In terms of job also, I got this job which sucks me very much. This too I got luckily. I failed in everything. Please help me to run away from it. I really need a help. Please suggest me. Is there any treatment I should prefer, what should I do?
Ans. It seems that you are in a depressed state of mind and this must be going on for some time. All the signs and symptoms of depression are there. Your life can become beautiful and enjoyable if you get yourself treated properly and you should not waste time. There could be story behind it that started it and we would like to hear that too. You should first come for psychotherapy and counselling and then we will decide if you need medicines or not. Depression has three aspects- biological, social and psychological. We start with the social and the psychological and then go to the level of biological causes. Please do not delay. Depression is treatable.