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Persona - Women's World

Where is Khushi? – 06 Jan 2010

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Khushi a three year old girl and her old grandmother were lost in the thick crowds of ‘Dhammachakra Din’ at Deekshabhoomi grounds this year. The Mother and Father of Khushi went insane trying to find her. The Mother was a part time maid with us and she voluntarily discontinued her job as she went berserk with her emotions. The old grandmother- her mother-in-law also went missing. My Mother and I too went crazy with the horror of what might have happened to them both. Our fantasies ran typically- the old lady would have been dropped somewhere on the way and the girl was kidnapped for some reasons which we can all collectively imagine and cringe our guts out. Till today they have not been found in spite of complaining at several police posts and to several policemen on duty at the pilgrimage centre.

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Get on with life – do not stagnate – 03 Jan 2010

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ABC (via email)

Q. I am a regular reader of your column. I love a girl so much and she also loves me a lot. We have been in love since past two years but the problem is that now she ignores me and said that “please forget me and all the past”. She doesn’t tell me what is the reason of it. Now she doesn’t attend my phone or reply my messages. All day I am dreaming about her and I can’t concentrate in my studies. Please help me.

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Work Behaviour

Swami Vivekananda’s mantra – 29 Dec 2009

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“No man can long occupy a position for which he is not fit. By doing well the duty which is nearest to us, which is in our hands now, we make ourselves stronger, and improving our strength in this manner, we may reach a state in which it shall be our privilege to do the most coveted duties…”

The Hindu monk who said this was Swami Vivekananda. He further adds that “We find ourselves in the position for which we are fit, and if one has some capacity above another, the world will find that out, too…” He reminds us that “We are all apt to think too highly of ourselves”.

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My Blog

Happy New Year 2010 & Welcome to my blog!

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Hi Friends!

Welcome to my site. It’s a happy moment for me to launch my website “MANODAYA-Centre for Psychological Enhancement”. Psychology has not been just my profession, but my passion as well. Delving into human mind, to know its negative and positive dimensions, is not just a matter of exploration for me but a religion of self discovery. For, as I help people in knowing themselves, I realise that I am getting to know myself better. I realise, too, that I see my own reflection in them. The mind may be embedded in different bodies, circumscribed by the details of each individual- it nevertheless is a huge extension of one and all. How amazing it is to realise the commonness of human mind despite such a vast and varied array of situations.

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Facts cannot be hidden – 20 Dec 2009

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Sanjana (via email)

Q. I am a regular reader of your column. Actually my problem is that I was married to a person who was totally fake so the marriage was neither solemnised physically nor mutually. It broke off within a week but rest of world knows that I am married but I am still single. Hope you are getting the point. Now I am out of that bad phase legally and after years I am looking for a partner who can understand me. Please guide me whether it’s ok to tell about my past to the person who will marry me? I am in my late 20’s and working in reputed firm. Kindly guide me.


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Persona - Women's World

Grooming daughters to be tough – 16 Dec 2009

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Revati is an adventurous girl, always willing to take the plunge into the unknown, ready to climb a tree, scale a wall, or even swim in a river in spate. Her parents, however, wondered often how she got all these traits, this toughness, this willingness to stick her neck out. For, they had a different picture of girls in their mind when they got married thirty years ago.

They wanted one son and one daughter, which they got. And they wanted their son to be tough and the daughter to be coy and shy. This wish of theirs was not fulfilled. For, in the process of grooming the kids, Revati became the tougher type, and brother Rakshak was timid as compared to his sister.  The parents did not like that, which was beyond their comprehension and in sharp contrast to what they had planned.

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Peers influence so keep good company – 13 Dec 2009

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S.N (via email)

Q. I am in love with a girl but the problem is that she considers me as her brother. Actually I did not have any special feelings for her but slowly it started developing in me and the day she told me that I am like her brother it shattered me. I also think that she likes somebody else. Actually I always think of her and it has started affecting my studies. I want to forget her but can’t whenever I talk to her. Actually I do not fall easily in love and as it was the first time. I don’t know what to do. Please suggest me.

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Work Behaviour

Of personal happiness at work – 08 Dec 2009

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There is a little difficulty with a lot of people’s understanding of what they achieve at work. For Dilip, a 40-year-old executive in a marketing firm, work meant a route to earning livelihood. his is, of course, true for most people. Yet, Dilip’s younger brother Sandeep, fresh from college, started working in another firm and would come home almost rejoicing that he had a great day at work. Dilip often wondered why his kid brother was so happy about his work that fetched him only a small sum as a trainee in a ramshackle office of a firm whose name was not so great in the marketplace.

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Handle the criticism with optimism – 06 Dec 2009

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C.U (via email)

Q. I am a mother of four years old daughter and married for 6 years. My hubby is a very good looking person working in government sector. I am an ordinary person with simple looks. After six years of marriage he always feels he could have married to better looking girl. I knew his feelings from the day of our engagement but at that time I was not having courage to tell these things to my parents. But now I need your help to overcome this problem. His behaviour with my daughter and me is nice but when he utters the same thing I am depressed. What shall I do?

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