Q. I am a young boy and a few weeks ago I fell down and had an injury. I was operated upon and am feeling well now. But I feel like my life is ended now and I am good for nothing. My body has become week and it pains all night. Should I treat myself for depression. Someone casually mentioned that I was depressed and I never thought about it like that. Please help me mam get out of this as soon as possible.
Ans. Take an assessment of your physical status. Evaluate the long term effects of the injury and the precautions you need to take to get back to normalcy. Have a long talk with your surgeon as well as the physician. Clear your mind of all doubts and tell them to be frank with you and not to hide the truth. Then decide your rehabilitation plan with a positive mind that you will get back to normalcy soon. Yes, for the moment, you sound depressed and many times serious injuries that require bed rest and staying indoors may make you feel depressed with life. A person with an active life style may feel depressed with his current state of affairs. But remember that this is just a temporary phase that you must bear with good humour and optimism. Surround yourself with good books and music and call your friends over in the evening. Cheer yourself up with whatever you love doing. A positive and healthy mind helps in healing the physical wounds faster and depression will prolong the recovery. So treat the depression with good thoughts or seek a few sessions of counselling. We offer tele-counselling for home-bound clients. Cheer up for all will be well soon.
Q. Recently I lost my friend in a car accident. My life is finished it seemed and my other friends helped me recover from the incident. My parents tried their best and no help it gave me. One girl helped me with a lot of time and hobbies, we played together and she used to come home and spend time. Now I feel better but also feel very guilty madam don’t know why. My sleep is gone and I lie awake at night wondering why I am alive and why my friend died. My studies are boring and my life is gone with my friend. Please tell me what to do and how to overcome this feeling.
Ans. There seems to be some unconscious emotions that seems to be bothering you about the accident and the loss of your friend. Guilt is a very negative and damaging emotion and I am wondering what is making you feel guilty? There could be a number of reasons I can conjecture but I would need to meet you and talk to you in detail about it. If you could come for a few sessions I am sure we could help you overcome the grief and clear your emotional disturbances. Life has to move on and falling ill is no solution to the loss you are facing. Stay in the company of friends who are helpful to you and avoid staying alone. Meditation and prayers will help you with calming the mind and inducing good sleep at night. If you cannot get rid of it soon, it is advisable to seek counselling. Prolonged grief and insomnia will lead to depression.
Q. I just appeared for my 9th Std and have gone to 10 std. My subjects are boring and I don’t understand maths and science. I like social studies and English language. I like to write and draw and love to paint and sing. My parents keep scolding me for neglecting my studies and I hate to sit for long and keep studying. I am worried about my future as my parents want me to do science and become an engineer and earn good money. They feel with language and social studies I will die of hunger and be unemployed for life. They keep hurting me all the time and bullying me. I want to run away at times from home and die. Can you solve my problem?
Ans. I could suggest that you encourage your parents to allow you to take the online Aptitude test from me and decide your career choices at this point of time. If your ability is low in maths and science you should not opt for careers with these subjects. The most scientific way of making the correct career choices is through the test that helps you identify your strengths and weaknesses as well as your personality and skills and interest areas and then throws up the best career choices for you. Success is important in life and hence choices that will lead to success should be made. Failures are to be avoided for it entails a loss of time, money and happiness. Every child from 8 Std upwards should take the aptitude test at least once to know about his abilities and personality. There are many career options with each subject matter. Science is not the end all of making a career.