“Of Office Romance” 17 March 2024.
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Q. There is a colleague in my office and she is very smart. She is better than me and I am in her team. She is very sweet in nature and manages very well all the tasks. She is the type of girl I always admired and wanted in my life. I think I have started having feelings for her and I think she understands that but does not say anything. She behaves very friendly with all and does not give any special favors to me. Now my emotions are getting mixed up! I am beginning to feel jealous if she gives another man more attention. I miss it when she does not give me attention. I don’t know what to do? If my feelings grow bigger, I will be in trouble and will harm my job. Slight distraction I am feeling on the job and feel confused and slightly upset. Please suggest what I should right now.
Ans. This is a time for reflection and caution. Ideally, it is better not to get emotionally involved at the workplace for it hampers the work. If the attraction between two persons are mutual, the possibility of an emotional alliance is more. Of- course this also should be kept outside the office and not brought inside the workplace. The behavior at the workplace should be cordial and professional. It would be better for you to examine your emotions and check them right away. You are already aware of your emotions of jealousy and attention seeking. Control them totally and go to work with a calm mind. Do not express them to her if she is not showing any feelings towards you. If your job is important to you, I am sure you will take all measures to retain it and check your behavior.
Anonymous,
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