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Persona - Women's World

Women can achieve anything they set their minds to do – 02 Dec 2009

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The historic event of President Pratibha Patil flying in a Sukhoi and then asserting that women can achieve anything they set their minds to do, came almost on the heels of the ‘personal’ views expressed by Vice Chief of the Indian Air Force Air Marshal Barbora as to why the IAF does not allow women to become fighter pilots. Initially, Air Marshal Barbora made what looked like a politically incorrect statement, and later stressed that those were his personal views. But that did kick off quite a controversy in the country: Should women be allowed to be fighter pilots, or they better be kept confined to flying transport aircraft and helicopters?

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Success requires a good personality – 29 Nov 2009

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Kundan (via email)

Q. Four years ago when I was pursuing D.Ed, I saw a girl who was used to pass by the way just beside my room. Initially I ignored her but later started taking interest. Because of my shyness I never approached her directly but I tried by all other mediums and she also knew all about my affection towards her and about me too. But on my every proposal she kept saying no. I was just in heaven at that time. Meanwhile another fellow proposed her and won her. I felt very sorry about her because I know how that fellow is. He is a roadside Romeo doing nothing good, a drunkard and has flirted with at least 3 to 5 girls till date. Now too he is not going to marry her as he declares in his friends (his and her friends are good friends of mine too so I come to know all about them). They have undergone physical contact many times but I still love her. I had decided to forget her now. She called me to wish me on my birthday and that even after getting denied permission from her boy friend. Now I am feel completely screwed up. I know well one day she will turn back to me. You tell me should I accept her if she does so- should I put efforts to convince her from my side or would it be better to forget her, my friends say she does not deserve my love.


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Emotions

Treat the depression soon – 22 Nov 2009

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Anonymous

Q. I am a 20 year old boy. I have been having a series of broken friendships from my high school. Each time I had a fight, I was able to move on without much problem. I have been an above-average student in school and did well in my 12th and the entrance exams. I am now in Engineering and it was my pride which led to my first failure in First Year exams. During my first year exam I also happened to reconnect with a friend (a girl) from my school. We were mere acquaintances – batch-mates – when in school. We kind of became the best of friends. She had a boyfriend and I was well aware of it. Every time she had a fight or argument with him she used to turn to me for support. In spite of it I never really developed any kind of romantic feelings for her and was able to be a good friend. Last summer she suddenly told me that she had enough of me and that we should stop being friends. She cited the reason as my rude and sarcastic nature. All this was shocking to me because she kept me under the impression that all’s well in our friendship. That summer I had another failure in my Engineering exam. But the real problem isn’t that of concentrating in studies or the failures as I believe they were my fault and I could have easily gone through the exam. During that period I once had thought of committing suicide. That was it. I and the girl are no longer in touch. Our exams for winter have begun and my first few subjects went really bad. I am in despair as I have given my full strength to studying this time and was pretty confident of not only passing but getting a good score as well. I started feeling that I am a good-for-nothing fellow, a failure in academics, and a loser in relationships. I once again had a thought of suicide. And now I get it every night. The thoughts are getting stronger and they are fast becoming a habit. Please help.

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Persona - Women's World

The food trap – 18 Nov 2009

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My friend has a perennial love affair with food. She loves to call herself a ‘foodie’ and is notoriously famous for inviting people over for dinners. She always claims mockingly ‘who will visit an old woman if I do not feed all of you’. She knows that we love her company as well as the delicious food that she cooks with painstaking efforts. But we love her for her sense of gourmet as well as her as a person. She always makes life sweet and spicy.

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Emotions

Focus on immediate goals – 15 Nov 2009

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Priya (via email)

Q. I am in class 10. I have a problem related to ambition of my life. I want to become one among some great peoples known and want to learn and know richness of life as far as I can. But whenever it comes to reality I find that I am all in fantasy. I want to be out of this fantasy and want to bring it as a reality in my life despite knowing that it is not something very easy. I want to be all satisfied with my life before it ends. Please help me.

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Work Behaviour

Battle with the Bottle – 10 Nov 2009

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One of the major mental health concerns is substance abuse which includes all types of addictive drugs besides alcohol. It is a serious psychological issue for its ramifications spread far and wide. It does not remain restricted to the individual and his family but impacts the workplace and the work productivity as well. Since everyone goes to work all workplaces would have a few or quite a few alcoholics hidden or known to other employees. The worker next to you could be drunk or hung-over. One figure says that 70 percent of drug abusers go to work. They are everywhere and can vitiate the atmosphere in many ways by initiating others into the habit of drinking or disturbing the work atmosphere by their low quality of work performance. They burden the other colleagues by their poor contribution. In short they are a pain to all.

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Self awareness helps in adjustment – 08 Nov 2009

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S.S (via email)

Q. I am B.com final year student. I want to do MBA but I failed in B.Com this year. This is very depressing to me. Every people saying that I  can`t do MBA or anything. I am very disturbed. I lost my confidence. I can`t concentrate on my study. I suffer mood swings, do not get enough sleep. Please help me what should I do?

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Persona - Women's World

Showering blessings on girls – 04 Nov 2009

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‘The gender bias is decreasing’ my liberal minded friends state. I agree that gross forms of gender discrimination have gone down in the urban areas but subtler forms remains which need finer scrutiny. With the new ‘Domestic Violence Act’ which men who have suffered at its hands consider draconian, women feel relatively safer and protected than they were before. Since attitudes die hard and do not change over generations such stringent Acts would help in making a dent in people’s thinking. People who do want to be generally politically correct in social circles have started to mouth gender appropriate viewpoints. They have become socially polite, suave and shrewd. They may carry two sets of opinions-one for personal decisions and the other for merely social consumption. To look a perfect picture is important indeed.

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Emotions

Dont let emotions block your intelligence – 01 Nov 2009

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S.N (via email)

Q. I have completed my M.Sc last year. I have tried for job but didn’t’ get one. Now I am working as a research trainee in one of the institute. I am getting married after 2 months. My problem is that I am very unstable and not able to do anything. Am preparing for the NET exam and have just filled the form but I am not studying at all. I gave this exam earlier also but did not clear. I don’t know cooking and my fiancée is fond of eating variety of dishes. All negative thoughts are crawling in me. 1) I think my parents have done a lot for me but I didn’t get a job so I was unable to help them as I belong to poor middle class family. 2) My would- be and in- laws feel that I should clear my net exam do a job and am unable to do all this. I am unable to remember anything which I studied in my previous classes. 3) I plan to cook but when I go home I am so tired and feel so lazy that I don’t cook. All such things make me worried. Every day I make a time table but never follow it. I just keep on postponing things. I always feel very inferior. When I see my classmates doing well in career, cooking I feel very jealous. I am not able to sleep properly so I feel very weak next day. I am suffering from constipation problem also. When I hold anything in my hand I feel as if am not having energy and things will fall. Please help me.

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Work Behaviour

Innovating at work – 27 Oct 2009

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Some organizations may systematically encourage innovations at work and create a culture of creativity on the job. They may encourage employees to innovate and look for different solutions to day to day tasks and problems. But a lot depends upon the individual employee and his own capacities to create and innovate. It depends on his attitudes and his values towards work. We observe that some people very effectively use the work place as an opportunity to learn and grow. They would be willing to find newer ways to perform their daily tasks and to think of newer ways to solve their day to day problems. Comparatively we see many other persons only grumbling about this and that deficiency in the work situation and punching bigger holes into the already existing structure. The problems of innovation could be external to the individual as well as internal to the individual.

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